Where is this 'village'... sign me up!

The idea of  'it takes a village to raise a child' has come up with my mommy friends lately in a few different conversations. So where is this village and sign me up! 


I actually have a pretend 'dream village' where I occasionally wish I was, ok I lie, I wish I was there ALL. THE. TIME. My make believe village is on the Island of Bali.... hmmm sandy beaches, hot weather, amazing food...  but seriously Bali is a very child-friendly place and everyone takes care of one another in the community. I grew up not far away as an expat kid in Jakarta so I have seen the culture up close.  Families often live in a family compound and help each other out. Now before having children the idea of living with family in one compound would not sound appealing however after child it sounds kind of nice. Having a group of people there to help you... oh imagine! Right after birth when your so tired, no worries your family is there to do it all while you just relax and get to know your baby. When your baby does not want to be put down, no problem pass him onto the next family member. All those extra hands, all the possibilities....

Modern parenting in the western world in my opinion has become what it is our of necessity due to our lack of a 'village' not necessarily that it is best for the mother or the child. For instance the idea of putting your child down whenever possible when they are newborn, is that because it is actually better for them to 'learn' to sleep on their own or is it because later on the child will have to be on their own (not enough hands around to help) and therefore best get them used to it early?


The lack of village we have also puts a hug strain on mothers as they must 'do it all' or close to it all on their own. The task of raising children is huge in my opinion and I don't think it was ever meant to be done alone or as a pair but by a community and family. The idea of independence and individuality is highly regarded in the west and so here we are independently and individually looking after our own families with minimal help. Some of us are lucky and have close nit families who are there at the ready to lend a helping hand though too often families are far away or too busy.  


More often then not we have created the 'modern village' through friends, social networks like facebook, twitter and blogs.  These are helpful and I know I value my made up village as they are my lifeline but still often long for my bali village. 

Quick Monday Exploration

Mondays are usually the day I buy produce and so it is also the day Baby T gets to explore what we bought and it's textures. 


Anything goes but I usually pick a few of what I buy just keeping in mind what can't be easily eaten at this stage (no teeth yet so there is less issues here for us). I make sure to wash it all as Baby T likes to explore everything with her mouth. Yum? 

                       

So there you have it something quick and easy that we do on a Monday. 

Eggs For Easter And For Fun!

You know those easter eggs you can get this time of year? The plastic ones that you can open up and put things inside... they are fantastic! Get them... seriously go out and buy some. These treasures are great and not just for easter they truly are great little open-ended wonders with endless possibilities! Due to the fact that they are open ended and you can do so many things with them I justify buying plastic for use as a toy. I am not a plastic lover for many reasons but I will save that for another post. 

So what to do with these beauties? Well I will share the first little exploration I created for Taya... SHAKERS! It really is too easy, fill them with what you have around the house. 

I filled them with Nutrios/cheerios, lip balm container, another small container and a wood ball that goes onto of our wooden stacker. I don't leave Baby T alone with these as some things might be choke hazards plus part of the activity is for us to explore them together... I'll explain in  moment. 

I placed the eggs in a muffin tin to make them easy to grab as without it they can get a bit roly-poly which is unnecessary frustration to start an activity with.  

At first I just let Baby T explore the eggs. Being a former preschool teacher I tend to run a commentary on what she is doing when we explore things together and that goes something like this; "what's that Baby T?", "are you picking up the purple one?". " is it heavy" etc etc. This keeps me engaged but more importantly it helps develop her language and puts labels to things and helps make meaning out of what she is doing.  

After a little exploring on her own I suggested shaking the eggs, which she did. Each egg had a different weight and sound so we talk about that for a bit. She then did some more solo exploring. 

 One of Baby T's favourite way to explore things is of course her mouth. Yum?


A few other things that you can do with the eggs: 
Bath time toys
Sand toys 
Filling and pouring toys (use sand, water, rice- best with kids that don't put everything in their mouth!)
Hid and seek toy (use open eggs and hide items underneath some of the halves- great game) 
Playdogh- great for cutting or filling 
Dramatic kitchen play
Dramatic play scenes 


What would you do with the eggs??? Would love to hear your ideas and try them!


Hope you enjoy and have fun with these! 

Sicky sick sick

So Baby T was sick..... for two long weeks and that's why the blog has been quiet. It was a pretty bad cold this time, a long persistent type of sickness complete with a junky chesty cough and a river running out of her nose. Well its bad when it's your first baby and your stuck at home in social isolation. 

Baby T, poor thing, was super clingy which is totally understandable, who wouldn't want extra comfort when their sick? To cope I wore her a L-O-T in the ring sling and the ergo. We even mastered the backpack carry in the ergo out of necessity to get some things done and out of boardroom! We had dance parties everyday with her in the ergo...good thing she loves music and dancing! Sadly her nighttime routine was thrown out the window. No longer would she go down at night sleeping soundly only waking to feed. No-oh- no Baby T needed me to be right next to her for comfort. So there I was going to bed with her at 7pm every night (thank goodness for my new itouch!). When I tried to sneak away she sensed it almost immediately, she caught on to my stealthy getaways and began laying down booby-traps (in the form of a leg or an arm strategically placed) so that if I dared move it she would know -smart  little bugger! Her eating routine also changed, though she was still keen on breast milk she was off her solids for a few days. 

So there we were in social isolation as baby T's nose ran like a river and coughed as if she was a 60 year old smoker. This meant no playgroups, no play-dates (coffee dates for me), no mom's group just me and baby T hanging out for TWO WEEKS. It sucked but its what you do so that others don't get infected. 


Thank goodness baby T is mostly better and we are able to resume our activities and socialize!!! She also is back on her old sleep routine (thought the time change has made it a little different) and she is eating like a pro again!


A few things helped us out while she was sick. First was our vaporizer which transported our room to humid Indonesia (luckily Mr and I grew up there so it was almost nostalgic!)  but it did help baby T to breath. Making homemade vapour rub (use olive oil as base, add drops of lavender, eucalyptus and murtle essential oils) and put it on her feet at every diaper change.... who knew vic or this vapour rub works when you put it on their feet!! 


The next few days I will post some new activity/toy ideas. Thanks for listening and if you have suggestions on what to do when baby is sick please leave a comment... it might help next time, cause there will be a next time.